Found a post that gives 81 Life Lessons or principles on a Chinese website. 81 is too many to remember and so I reorganized it, translated them into English and add in a few words of my own. It is a good list to reflect on our life. A lesson on happiness is "The only way to get happiness is to treasure what you have and forget what you don't have." It is a mindset rather than about having more.
The Source Article is
here (in Chinese).
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The Content:
- Thinking You are the product of your Thinking
- 81.養成更好的思考習慣,就可以改變生活。
- Develop better-thinking habits and you can change your life.
- 35.覺得自己做的到和不做的到，其實隻在一念之間。
- Can or cannot is just at the moment of your thought.
- Acceptance of SelfThe First Step
- 01.每天告訴自己一次，『我真的很不錯』。
Every day begins with telling yourself that "I'm not bad at all."
- Starts with accepting yourself, strengths & weaknesses. Don't condemn yourself. No self-doubt.
- 34.世上最累人的事，莫過於虛偽的過日子。
- The most tiring thing in the world is living in hypocrisy.
- 50.自己要先看得起自己，別人才會看得起你。
- We must first look up to ourselves than others will look up to us.
- 58.所有欺騙中，自欺是最為嚴重的。
- Self-deception is the most serious of all deceptions.
- Adapt to Situation - No matter what
- 24.抱最大的希望，為最大的努力，做最壞的打算。
- Embrace the greatest hope, give the very best effort and prepare for the worse outcome.
- 40.如果你曾歌頌黎明，那麼也請你擁抱黑夜。
- If you have ever praised the dawn, then also invite you to embrace the night.
- 68.不如意的時候不要盡往悲傷裡鑽，想想有笑聲的日子吧。
- When you are not as you wish, then don't indulge in sadness, but think about the days of laughter.
- 73.你不能左右天氣，但你能轉變你的心情。
- You can't control the weather, but you can change your mood.
- 53.樂觀者在災禍中看到機會；悲觀者在機會中看到災禍。
- Optimists see opportunities in disasters; pessimists see disasters in opportunities.
See from both points of view and plan accordingly. Overcoming threats first and see the opportunities.
- 32.上帝從不埋怨人們的愚昧，人們卻埋怨上帝的不公平。
God never complains about people's ignorance. People complain about God's injustice.
The world is never fair. So accept it and work from there.
- 27.每一件事都要用多方面的角度來看它。
Everything has to be viewed from a variety of perspectives.
- Self-ControlEmotion Management
- 11.人的價值，在遭受誘惑的一瞬間被決定。
- Your worth is decided at the moment of temptation.
- 72.要克服生活的焦慮和沮喪，得先學會做自己的主人。
- Overcoming the worry and depression in life begins with becoming your own master.
- 02.生氣是拿別人做錯的事來懲罰自己。
- Anger is using others mistakes to punish yourself.
- 30.所有的勝利，與征服自己的勝利比起來，都是微不足道。
- All the victories, when compared with winning against oneself, are not worth saying.
- 31.所有的失敗，與失去自己的失敗比起來，更是微不足道。
- All the loses, when compared with losing oneself, are not worth mentioning.
- The direction of Life - Find & Follow it
- 42.人生重要的不是所站的位置，而是所朝的方向。
- The important thing in life is not the position you are standing in, but the direction you are facing.
- 76.漫無目的的生活就像出海航行而沒有指南針。
- An aimless life is like sailing out of the sea without a compass.
- 39.人只要不失去方向，就不會失去自己。
- As long as people do not lose their direction, they will not lose themselves.
- 77.好好扮演自己的角色，做自己該做的事。
- Play your own role and do your own job. - There is no need to be envious of others and try to be like them.
- 06.發光並非太陽的專利，你也可以發光。
- Letting the light shine is not the exclusive right of the sun, you can also shine.
- Hope, Dream, Faith - Embrace them
- 05.生活若剝去理想、夢想、幻想，那生命便隻是一堆空架子。
- When life is deprived of aspirations, dreams, imagination, then life is like an empty shelf.
- 04.明天的希望，讓我們忘了今天的痛苦。
- The hope for tomorrow enables us to forget today's suffering.
- 24.抱最大的希望，為最大的努力，做最壞的打算。
- Embrace the greatest hope, give the very best effort and prepare for the worse outcome.
- 29.有希望在的地方，痛苦也成歡樂。
- In the place of hope, even the pains can change to laughter
- 28.有理想在的地方，地獄就是天堂。
- When there are dreams and ideal, hell will become heaven
- 38.思想如鑽子，必須集中在一點鑽下去才有力量。
- Ideals are like drills, they must be the point of focus of drilling so that there can be the strength.
- 56.明天是世上增值最快的一塊土地，因它充滿了希望。
- Tomorrow is the most value-added piece of land in the world because it is full of hope.
- 60.把你的臉迎向陽光，那就不會有陰影。
- Bring your face to the sun, then there will be no shadow.
- 75.想像力比知識更重要。
- Imagination is more important than knowledge.
- Faith
- 18.只要有信心，人永遠不會挫敗
- People will never be frustrated if they have confidence
- 23.『不可能』隻存在於蠢人的字典裡。
- "Impossible" exists only in the fool's dictionary.
- 57.理想的路總是為有信心的人預備著。
- The ideal road is always prepared for those who have faith.
- 57.理想的路總是為有信心的人預備著。
- The ideal road is always prepared for those who have faith.
- Be Bold - Face your Fear
- 21.人若軟弱就是自己最大的敵人。
- Your fear/weakness is your greatest enemy.
- 22.人若勇敢就是自己最好的朋友。
- Being brave is your best friend.
- 54.有勇氣並不表示恐懼不存在，而是敢面對恐懼、克服恐懼。
- Having courage does not mean that fear does not exist,
but rather one dares to face fear and overcome fear.
- 71.因害怕失敗而不敢放手一搏，永遠不會成功。
- Fear of failure and not dare to give it a go, then one will never succeed.
- Execution - Step by Step & Don't Give-up
- Starting - Do It
- 66.你的選擇是做或不做，但不做就永遠不會有機會。
- Your choice is to do or not to do, but you will never have a chance to do something.
- 78.一切偉大的行動和思想，都有一個微不足道的開始。
- All great actions and ideas have a negligible beginning.
- Ending
- 20.不論你在什麼時候結束，重要的是結束之後就不要悔恨。
- Regardless of when you end, it is important not to regret after the end.
Hence, before you start, think about how you want to end.
- Don't Give Up
- 19.不論你在什麼時候開始，重要的是開始之後就不要停止。
- No matter when you start, it is important not to stop after starting.
- 43.當你能飛的時候就不要放棄飛。Don't give up flying when you can fly.
- 44.當你能夢的時候就不要放棄夢。Don't give up dreams when you can dream.
- 45.當你能愛的時候就不要放棄愛。Don't give up love when you can love.
- Make Use of Present
- 46.生命太過短暫，今天放棄了明天不一定能得到。Life is too short. What gives up today you may be sure you can get it tomorrow.
- 51.一個今天勝過兩個明天。
- Today is worth two tomorrow.
- 52.要銘記在心；每天都是一年中最美好的日子。
- Keep in mind; every day is the best day of the year.
- 63.用最少的浪費面對現在。
- Use the least waste to face today.
- 64.用最多的夢面對未來。
- Face the future with the most dreams.
- Diligence
- 26.遊手好閑會使人心智生鏽。
- Leisure time can cause mental rust.
- 47.天才是百分之一的靈感加上百分之九十九的努力。
- Genius is 1% inspiration plus 99% effort.
- Patience
- 80.學做任何事得按部就班，急不得。
- Learn to do anything in a step-by-step manner. Don't rush
- Learning
- 69.把自己當傻瓜，不懂就問，你會學的更多。
- Treat yourself as a fool and ask if you don't understand. You will learn more.
- 61.經驗是由痛苦中粹取出來的。
- Lessons are distilled from the painful experience.
- Age
- Youth
- 12.年輕是我們唯一擁有權利去編織夢想的時光。
- Youth is the only right you have to paint your dream.
- 13.青春一經典當即永不再贖。
- Youth, when gone, cannot be continued
- Aging
- 36.第一個青春是上帝給的；第二個的青春是靠自己努力的。
- The first youth is given by God; the second youth is by their own efforts.
- Relationships - Treasure Them
- Love
- 10.你可以用愛得到全世界，你也可以用恨失去全世界。
- You can use love to gain the whole world.
You can also use hate to lose the whole world.
- 14.沒有了愛的語言，所有的文字都是乏味的。
- Without the language of love, all the words are tasteless.
- 15.真正的愛，應該超越生命的長度、心靈的寬度、靈魂的深度。
- True love is longer than the lifetime, wider than the heart, and deeper than the spirit-soul.
- 16.愛的力量大到可以使人忘記一切，卻又小到連一粒嫉妒的沙石也不能容納。
- The power of love can be so large as to forget about everything;
but can be so narrow that a little sand of jealousy cannot be tolerated.
- 37.少一點預設的期待，那份對人的關懷會更自在。
- Less expectation and your care for others will be more natural.
- 41.問候不一定要慎重其事，但一定要真誠感人。
- Greetings need not be overly careful, but they must be sincere & touching.
- Marriage
- 62.男人要捧,女人要哄，婚前挑缺點，婚後看優點！
- Man must be flattered, woman coaxed. Before marriage finds the faults. After marriage find the good points
- Family
- 25.家！甜蜜的家！天下最美好的莫過於家。
- Home, sweet home. There is nothing better than home under the sky.
- Friends
- 03.生活中若沒有朋友，就像生活中沒有陽光一樣。
- Living without friends is like living without sunlight.
- 67.如你想要擁有完美無暇的友誼，可能一輩子找不到朋友。
- If you want to have a perfect friendship, you may not find a friend in your lifetime.
- 70.要糾正別人之前，先反省自己有沒有犯錯。
- Before correcting others, first, reflect on yourself whether you have made mistakes.
- 79.得意時應善待他人，因為你失意時會需要他們。
- Be kind to others when you are doing well because you need them when you are dejected.
- 74.孤單寂寞與被遺棄感是最可怕的貧窮。
- Lonely, loneliness, and abandonment are the most terrible poverty.
- Reflection - Pause & Learn
- 07.愚者用肉體監視心靈，智者用心靈監視肉體。
- The foolish uses the fleshly body to monitor the heart-soul;
the wise use the heart-soul to monitor the flesh.
- Enlighten
- 17.當一個人真正覺悟的一刻，他放棄追尋外在世界的財富，而開始追尋他內心世界的真正財富。
- When a person is truly enlightened, he gives up the pursuit of the wealth of the external world and begins to pursue the true wealth of his inner world.
- Lying to Self
- 58.所有欺騙中，自欺是最為嚴重的。
- Self-deception is the most serious of all deceptions.
- Confession
- 55.肯承認錯誤則錯已改了一半。
- Admission of mistake is half-way in correction.
- Mistakes
- 59.人生最大的錯誤是不斷擔心會犯錯。
- The biggest mistake in life is constantly worrying about making mistakes (and do nothing).
- Happiness - It is a mindset rather than possessions
- 08.獲致幸福的不二法門是珍視你所擁有的、遺忘你所沒有的。
- The only way to get happiness is to treasure what you have and forget what you don't have.
- 48.人總是珍惜未得到的，而遺忘了所擁有的。
- People always cherish what they haven't got and forget what they have.
- 49.快樂要懂得分享，才能加倍的快樂。
- Happiness must be shared so that one can be doubly happy.
- 65.快樂不是因為擁有的多而是計較的少。
- Happiness is not because of having much but being less picky and calculative.
- 09.貪婪是最真實的貧窮，滿足是最真實的財富。
- Greed is the real poverty. Contentment is the real riches.
- 33.美好的生命應該充滿期待、驚喜和感激。
- A good life should be full of expectations, surprises, and gratitude.
- 34.世上最累人的事，莫過於虛偽的過日子。
- The most tiring thing in the world is living in hypocrisy.
Hope you take away some lessons for improving your life.
Lim Liat (c) 20 Apr 2018
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