Not losing oneself will last. 不失其所者久。Being True to Yourself – Don’t try to be Someone you’re Not
Died and yet one’s legacy continues is long life. 死而不亡者，壽
Becoming your true self is natural and is the easiest thing to do. Trying and pretending to be someone that we are not is tough and stressful. Hence, such acting cannot last long. The first thing in life is to find out what we are good at. In the Christian world, it is called knowing your calling. We are to believe that we are created for a unique purpose. This also means that we must recognize that there will be things that we love to do and there will be things that we dislike or don’t do too well. People call them “Strengths” and “Weaknesses”. But we discussed elsewhere that strengths or weaknesses are known only in the context of a requirement. The strength for a task could be a weakness for another task. We just need to accept the reality that we are not Superman and we are limited. More importantly, it is OK that we are limited in some ways.
No one is measured by things they cannot do. We are all measured by what we do with the abilities and talents that we have and not what we don’t. In fact, we are most impressed by people who do things they are not supposed to be able to. We are impressed by the man who plays piano with his toes because he has no hands. The man without limbs lives a life that impacts more lives than we can with ours. Don’t be upset by what you cannot do like someone else. They are built differently for a different purpose than you. You have your own unique calling for life.
In the famous Parable of Talents of the Bible (Matthew 25:14-30), both the 10-talent one who made 1o more and the 5-talent one are equally rewarded. Punishment went to the 1-talent one who did nothing with it but just buried it. Don’t be concerned with what you don’t have. Try to do something with what you have. You will break free to become your true and useful self. Remember the following:
Focus and build on your strengths* and you become a champion. If you focus on your weaknesses* and if you do succeed, you are just a mediocre average!By developing on our unique strengths and doing the things we like, the things we naturally do well, we will excel in them. The success motivates us to do more. Such work doesn’t tire us. They vitalized us. Hence, Lao Zi said that “Not losing oneself, just be your true self, and it will last”.
Develop your strengths and manage** your weaknesses and you will become a champion.
*Strengths are things that you like to do. The more you do them, the more energized you got. Weaknesses are things that you hate to do. You try to avoid them and if you do them, you get stressed up, headache, and you don’t do well.
**Manage your weaknesses does not mean ignore them. You manage them by outsourcing or delegate them to others who love to do them for you. Manage involves finding the reliable and right people to do the things you don’t like, delegating, motivating and communicating your needs.
Leaving a Legacy – You Live On Forever
Not only do we want to be our true selves, but we also want to do meaningful and significant things with our uniqueness. We use what we have to impact the lives around us for good. Somehow, in the depths of our soul, we want to live on forever. While we may not live to see it (for true Christians, you can see it from Heaven), the impact of our lives lives on: through the children we brought up, the institutions we built, the friends and relatives we connected with, and so forth. The key question in our mind tends to be, "What is the legacy I leave behind?"
This legacy, whether good or bad, will outlive us. A famous Chinese saying reminded us of this. 明·王世贞《艺苑卮言》卷三： “桓玄子恒言 ‘不能流芳百世，亦当贻臭万年’， If we cannot leave behind sweet fragrance for a hundred generations, at least leave behind a pungent smell for ten thousand years. It actually reminds us that we will leave behind an influence that will outlast us. What it is that we will leave behind will be decided by what we do with our uniqueness of capabilities and limitations.
Find out what are the meaningful and significance things that you like to do naturally. Meaningful things tend to be other-centered. They are pro-life, pro-community, and pro-environment. Work on them passionately. You will leave behind a sweet fragrance influence that lasts thousand generations.
Guy Kawasaki recommends to the entrepreneurs (my paraphrase below)
Practical Takeaway:
Focus on cultivating inner integrity (不失其所) and contributing timeless good (死而不亡).
The essence of entrepreneurship is making meaning, not money.Make Meaning makes Money.Make Money loose meaning and eventually no money.
In summary, develop your strengths and manage your weaknesses so that you can work for a long time with vitality and joy. Use them to leave behind a meaningful legacy that outlives you to last for generations.
Focus on cultivating inner integrity (不失其所) and contributing timeless good (死而不亡).
