The source is https://www.facebook.com/reel/1225665072777742 . Howver, it was in Mandarin. It triggered to do further work and translation with additional compilation by DeepSeek. Here are the key lessons.
The Ultimate Way to Nurture Yourself: Cultivate a "Wealthy Tongue"
Speaking less is wisdom, holding your tongue is practice.
A "wealthy tongue" does not mean speaking cleverly or deceitfully, but understanding the measure and power of words. Those who truly know how to nurture themselves understand that "cultivating speech" is "cultivating the heart"—words not only affect interpersonal relationships but also determine one's own energy field. Understanding the following five principles can reduce 80% of interpersonal strain.
I. Five Guiding Principles for Nurturing Yourself
1. When encountering someone with an "improper state of mind," silence is the best way to distance yourself.
When you sense someone is full of hostility and distorted thoughts, there's no need to persuade or argue. See their nature clearly with your eyes, let go of entanglement, and turn away in silence—that is the best response. Just as "rain does not water rootless grass, and Buddha's teachings do not enlighten those without affinity," you can never wake someone who is pretending to sleep. Every extra word spoken consumes more of your energy; every step of distance gained brings more inner peace.
2. Truly capable people never use their mouths to "prove themselves."
Ability lies in actions; strength is shown in results. Those who like to boast often have the most inner lack, while truly capable people tend to be low-key and steady. After experiencing life's trials, one understands: speaking less is not weakness, but the cultivation of not showing off or flaunting. The more silent, the more powerful; the more low-key, the more substantial.
3. Revealing too much too soon is a major taboo—speak according to the depth of the relationship.
The most dangerous thing in interpersonal interactions is "pouring out your heart" to someone you've just met. What you think is sincerity, others may see as gossip. Guard your words in front of others, don't easily reveal your thoughts; guard your heart behind the scenes, don't casually judge others. Thinking carefully and speaking prudently allows relationships to remain healthy and lasting.
4. Seeing through without speaking out is the highest form of etiquette.
Understand people in your heart, not just with your eyes; see clearly but don't spell it out. In life, it's often unnecessary to expose the truth or point out hypocrisy. Knowing things but not discussing them avoids trouble; knowing people but not judging them avoids hurt; knowing reason but not debating it avoids unnecessary conflict. Smiling without speaking is open-mindedness; enduring pain without complaint demonstrates perspective. Maturity is not about "seeing through everything," but about "letting go of everything."
5. Those who speak harshly will ultimately deplete their own blessings.
Harsh words are like sharp blades—hurting others three parts while harming oneself seven parts. Speaking harshly to family chills affection; speaking cruelly to friends severs bonds; complaining to strangers only invites negativity. As the old saying goes, "illness enters through the mouth, trouble comes out of the mouth." A sharp tongue inevitably erodes countless blessings. Accumulating kind words brings good fortune; speaking well is the foundation of nurturing yourself.
II. The "Nine Non-Debates" for Navigating Life
With parents, do not debate words: Filial piety lies first in compliance. Arguing over right and wrong may win the point but lose the closeness.
With your partner, do not debate right or wrong: Home is a place for love, not for logic. Clarifying who is right may cool the feelings.
With petty people, do not debate reason: Different positions and perspectives exist. Struggling over who wins only disturbs your own peace of mind.
With friends, do not debate face/social standing: Sincerity and genuine feeling are more precious than vain appearances. Obsessing over vanity may hurt true hearts.
With relatives, do not debate wealth or poverty: Do not flaunt your wealth, nor complain about your hardships. Comparing family circumstances only dilutes kinship.
With benefactors/mentors, do not debate fame or gain: Treat them with sincerity; do not be overly calculating. Excessive calculation may cost you opportunities.
With elders, do not debate winning or losing: Show more consideration and respect. Winning an argument may mean losing respect.
With leaders/superiors, do not debate seniority or juniority: Maintain your professional boundaries and respect hierarchical order. Arguing over what's right may lead to a loss of propriety.
With yourself, do not debate gain or loss: Look lightly upon outcomes, focusing instead on inner growth and peace. Dwelling on the past only disrupts the present.
III. Cultivate a "Wealthy Tongue," Live in a Good State
The essence of a "wealthy tongue" is inner wealth—when the heart holds compassion, the mouth can offer warmth; when the mind has perspective, words can have measure. When we learn to control our speech, we also learn to manage our emotions and energy.
Speaking less does not mean having nothing to say, but knowing when to speak, what to say, and how to say it. Holding one's tongue is not weakness or concession, but understanding that some words are unnecessary, inappropriate, or should not be said at all.
To truly nurture yourself, start by cultivating a "wealthy tongue": leave room when speaking, avoid hurtful words, do not spread gossip, and refrain from boastful speech. When you learn to use words to nourish others, you are, in turn, invisibly nourishing your own blessings and life.
Truly wise people understand: fewer words bring more fortune; a kind tongue brings prosperous luck. When you cultivate this tongue well,烦恼减少了 (troubles decrease), relationships smooth out, and a good state naturally follows. Life, then, becomes more and more harmonious.
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富养自己的顶级方式：养一张“富贵嘴”
少言是智慧，闭嘴是修行。
所谓“富贵嘴”，并非教人巧言令色，而是懂得言语的分寸与力量。真正会富养自己的人，都明白“养嘴”即是“养心”——言语不仅影响人际关系，更决定自身能量场。读懂以下五句话，可减少80%的人际内耗。
一、富养自己的五句箴言
1. 遇“心境不正”者，不言不语是最好的远离
当你觉察到某人满身戾气、心态扭曲时，不必劝解争论。眼睛看清本性，手放开纠缠，沉默转身即是最好的回应。正如“天雨不润无根之草，佛法不渡无缘之人”，你永远叫不醒装睡的人。多说一句，就多一分能量消耗；远离一分，便多一分内心清净。
2. 真正厉害的人，从不用嘴“证明自己”
能力藏在做事里，实力显在结果中。越是喜欢炫耀的人，往往内心越匮乏；而真正有实力者，往往低调沉稳。经历社会磨练后便会懂得：少说话不是懦弱，而是不张扬、不炫耀的修为。越沉默，越有力量；越低调，越显分量。
3. 交浅言深是大忌，有几分情说几分话
人际交往中最危险的，便是刚认识就“掏心掏肺”。你以为这是真诚，别人却可能当作谈资。人前守口，不轻易透露心事；人后守心，不随意评价他人。善思慎言，方能让关系长久而健康。
4. 看破不说破，是顶级教养
识人在心不在眼，看清不说清。生活中，看破真相却不必拆穿，知道虚伪却不必点破。知事不言事，是不添乱；知人不评人，是不伤人；知理不辩理，是不较真。笑而不语是豁达，痛而不言是格局。成熟不是“看破一切”，而是“看淡一切”。
5. 口出恶言者，终会耗掉自己的福气
刻薄言语如利刃，伤人三分，自损七分。对家人说狠话，寒了亲情；对朋友说恶言，断了交情；对陌生人抱怨，也只会招来戾气。老话说“病从口入，祸从口出”，一张刻薄嘴，必损万千福。积善言才能得福报，好好说话是富养自己的基础。
二、为人处世的“九不论”
跟父母不论口舌：孝顺首在顺，不与父母争辩是非，争赢了道理，却可能输了亲情。
跟伴侣不论对错：家是讲爱的地方，不是讲理的地方，辩清了是非，却可能冷了感情。
跟小人不论道理：立场不同，认知各异，纠缠输赢只会乱了自己的心境。
跟朋友不论面子：真情实意比虚荣的面子更珍贵，执着于虚荣，可能伤了真心。
跟亲戚不论穷富：不炫耀自己的富，不抱怨自己的穷，攀比家境只会淡了亲情。
跟贵人不论名利：真诚相待，莫计较得失，过分计较可能错失良机。
跟老人不论输赢：多些体谅和尊重，赢了争论，可能失了尊重。
跟领导不论高低：守好职场本分，尊重职级秩序，争对错可能失了分寸。
跟自己不论得失：看淡结果，注重内心的成长与安宁，纠结过往只会乱了当下。
三、养出“富贵嘴”，活出好状态
“富贵嘴”的本质，是内心的富贵——心中有慈悲，嘴上才有温暖；内心有格局，言语才有分寸。当我们学会控制言语，也就学会了掌控自己的情绪与能量。
少言，不是无话可说，而是懂得何时说、说什么、怎么说。闭嘴，不是软弱退让，而是明白有些话不必说、不能说、不该说。
富养自己，从养一张“富贵嘴”开始：说话留余地，伤人话不说，是非话不传，炫耀话不响。当你学会用言语滋养他人，也就在无形中滋养了自己的福报与人生。
真正聪明的人，都懂得：话少福多，嘴善运旺。养好了这张嘴，烦恼少了，人际关系顺了，好状态自然就来了。日子，也就越过越顺遂了。
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