Learning from Viktor E. Frankl “Man's Search For Meaning”
读书领悟：
维克托·弗兰克尔
“人的搜寻生命的意义”
- + - 1 Choose your Response & Not react with your Dino- Brain
主动选择反应
- The one thing you can't take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one's freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given circumstance.
你无法夺走我唯一的东西是“我选择如何回应你对我的方式”。一个人最后的自由是在任何情境中所选择的态度。
- + - 2 Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional
痛苦难免 煎熬可免
- Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.
生活从未因环境而变得难以忍受，而仅仅是因为缺乏意义和目的。
所以有人说 “痛苦是不可避免的，但受苦是可选择的”
- + - 3 Find the Meaning
寻找生命的意义
- In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.
在某种程度上，苦难在找到意义的瞬间就不再是苦难，比如牺牲的意义。
- There is much wisdom in the words of Nietzsche: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how”
在尼采的话语中有很多智慧：“有了为何而活的目标，几乎可以承受任何遭遇。”
- + - 4 Change Our Attitude
改变态度和观点
- + - “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
“当我们无法再改变一种境况时，我们就被挑战去改变自己。”
- + - 5 Discover Your Life's Purpose
发掘个人的意义
- “Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”
“最终，人不应该问他的生命有什么意义，而是必须认识到被问的是他。总的来说，每个人都受到生命的询问；他只能通过对自己的生命负责来回答生命；他只能通过对他自己的生命负责来回应生命。”
- + - 6 Learn from Past Mistakes
不再犯同样的错
- “Live as if you were living for the second time and had acted as wrongly the first time as you are about to act now.”
Live as if you are experiencing life for the second time, having learned from the mistakes of your first attempt, and apply that wisdom to your present actions.
活得好像你在第二次经历生命，就像你在第一次行动时犯了错误一样，而你现在正准备采取的行动。
- + - 7 Paradox of Happiness
快乐和成功的矛盾
- Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.
幸福不能追求；它必须随之而来。
- “When a person can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.”
“当一个人找不到深刻的意义时，他们用享乐分散自己。”
- “Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”
“不要追求成功。你越是以它为目标并追求它，你就越会错过它。因为成功，就像幸福一样，不能被追求；它必须随之而来，并且只有作为个人奉献于比自己更伟大的事业的意外副作用，或者作为对比自己更重要的人的屈服的副产品才会发生。幸福必须发生，同样也适用于成功：你必须放手，不去在意它。我希望你听从你的良心命令你做的事情，并且努力去完成你所知道的最好。然后你会活着看到，从长远来看，成功会跟随你，因为你已经忘记去思考它。”
- + - Find Your Baloon:
- A teacher gave a balloon to every student, who had to inflate it, write their name on it and throw it in the hallway. The teacher then mixed all the balloons. The students were then given 5 minutes to find their own balloon. Despite a hectic search, no one found their balloon.
- At that point, the teacher told the students to take the first balloon that they found and hand it to the person whose name was written on it. Within 5 minutes, everyone had their own balloon.
- The teacher said to the students: "These balloons are like happiness. We will never find it if everyone is looking for their own. But if we care about other people's happiness, we'll find ours too."
- May your day be filled with happiness. ❤️
- + - 8 Use the Time Well
充分利用时光
- “The pessimist resembles a man who observes with fear and sadness that his wall calendar, from which he daily tears a sheet, grows thinner with each passing day. On the other hand, the person who attacks the problems of life actively is like a man who removes each successive leaf from his calendar and files it neatly and carefully away with its predecessors, after first having jotted down a few diary notes on the back. He can reflect with pride and joy on all the richness set down in these notes, on all the life he has already lived to the fullest.”
“悲观主义者类似于一个观察到自己的壁挂日历日益减薄的人，他每天撕下一张，随着日子的推移，日历变得越来越薄。另一方面，积极面对生活问题的人就像一个将日历的每一页都精心整理并小心翼翼地存档的人，事先在背面记下了一些日记笔记。他可以自豪而欣喜地反思这些笔记中记录的所有丰富经历，反思他已经充分活过的生命。”
